Our complete guide for what to do when it feels like you just don’t fit in with the people and culture of your workplace.
Try as you might, you’re feeling like you might never actually make any friendships at work.
Whether it’s due to a sour attitude, strange hobbies, or maybe just a big red glowing nose, it doesn’t take much for a person to feel like a misfit at their place of work.
Sometimes all it takes is a lackluster introduction and some bad luck, then suddenly, WHAM.
You’re marked for life as the office weirdo.
But fret not! Like an asteroid shooting towards the Earth, there’s always a chance for you to turn around before you explode into a big, fiery mess.
To that end, your friends at Zippia have put together a few solid tips in order to help you find your way out of your inherent weirdness and catapult you into workplace popularity.
To answer the question posed by the title of this section, let’s start with an obvious answer:
Not “fitting in” is only a problem if it bothers you.
If you’re perfectly comfortable being the black sheep of your office, then by all means, keep doing what you’re doing. There’s no reason for you to change your behavior if you don’t really care about whether or not the people around you like you.
That being said, there are a few obvious downsides to not being a popular presence in the office:
Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to make the situation a little more tolerable.
Whether you’re trying to fit in for personal reasons or purely for business, one of the best things you can do is try to make a few friends at work.
Making friends is easy enough — it just takes spending a little extra time showing an interest in the people around you, and it’s a move that pays off.
So even if you’re only making friends is for soulless, purely professional reasons, it can still be a pretty good idea.
Here are a few things you can do to make the process of making friends a little easier on yourself:
If you’re not interested in — or capable of — making friends, then there’s something else you probably want to consider as well.
Maybe it’s not you — it’s them.
It’s entirely possible that your company’s corporate culture just doesn’t jive with whatever kind of energy you yourself are currently slinging out into the world.
In cases like these, there’s only two real options available to you:
First, if the situation is at least tolerable — if not ideal — then it might be worth it for you to stick it out anyway. This is a particularly good option if you’re comfortable with your current place in the company, since not having a lot of friends is sure to impact your chances of being promoted.
And second, you could just quit. In the event that your company’s culture is bad for you or just bad period, no amount of friends are ever going to fix the situation for you.
Here are a few signs that the culture of your company is untenable for you:
That’s all for this one! But keep one thing in mind:
If you don’t fit in at your place of work, it might be them, or it might be you — but in either case, the result is pretty much the same:
You really need to start looking for another job already.
If things are this miserable and you’re having this much difficulty making friends, things aren’t magically going to get better for you.
For your sanity, you should at least think about starting to look for a job in a different company. Maybe one where the culture is a little more your speed?
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